Gay guy calls his childhood bully, and it goes better than he could have dreamed

A gay guy has done what many of us, no matter how old we are, would be terrified to do: call up your childhood bully.

Plenty of us, whether we’re LGBTI or not, didn’t have the greatest childhoods. And whether you were called names or beaten up or even just made to feel small by your classmates, those scars can last a lifetime.

Riyadh, a YouTuber from Ireland, said he wanted to be the ‘guinea pig’ for all the people out there that were bullied at school.

‘[I wanted to show] that after time passes, your bullies just end up being normal people. They’re not evil. It’s not a scar that should be there for ever,’ he said.

The actual conversation is intense, but only from Riyadh’s point of view. The guy who used to torture him thought ‘everything was alright’ between them in the first place.

But when it ends, Riyadh says: ‘I don’t think that could have gone better than it did. He was genuinely sorry and I don’t think he even realized the affect it had on me and even the effect it has on me now. It was very cathartic.’

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Drunk In Love

Photography By Benedict Evans

Carlos Santolalla, Model and Photographer

We met at a casting. The weird thing about models — something that nobody really realizes — is that they’re all straight. John had this cute sweater on and I was like, Whoa, I think he might be gay. So I chatted him up, and we kept running into each other around the city

after that.

The first night we hung out, we just fell asleep on the couch together, watching TV and laughing. The next day I took him to my favorite coffee place, Café Gitane. It was super cold, and we got hot chocolate. We were clearly into each other but didn’t do anything for a long time. It seemed pretty special. I wouldn’t have waited if I didn’t think it was. After a week we just kind of fell in love, and then started making out. It was sort of sappy like that. We just complement each other completely — artistically, socially. I think the differences we have make us a whole. And that’s the best part about it. We do everything together.

I actually got John’s name tattooed on my chest after we’d been together for about a year. He was away in Japan for three months, and I kind of freaked out. I was skating home one day at one in the morning — I was maybe a bit drunk — and I said to myself, If this tattoo shop is open, I’ll get this tattoo. I was so sure it wasn’t going to be, and it was! So I was like, Ah, fuck. And I did it.

John Tuite, Model and Writer

When he told me he was going to get a tattoo of my name, I was like, “Why would you ever do that? That’s insane.” Then he sent me a picture of it. He said he was walking home and just flipped a coin. Or maybe it had something to do with a mushroom trip. I was horrified but also really flattered. I thought it was hilarious and pretty sexy. I have his name in white ink on my right hand. I got it a year after I got back from Japan. I guess I wanted to show that I was serious in the same way he was.

Carlos can come off as a bad boy sometimes, but you can see by the way he laughs that he’s a sweetheart. The first time we hung out, we went to this party. Then he came back and we fell asleep on my couch. After that night, we were together all day every day. Constantly. Inseparable. We kind of fell in love in a way that was a little old-fashioned. There was a courtship. It all just felt really natural. It was like falling into another world.

Now we’re really open about being a couple, but [our] making out in public is not about vanity. When we were growing up, neither of us knew any gay people. I didn’t have any examples of gay life or role models. With our joint Instagram [@Jarlos420], I really want people to be able to see us and feel normal — to know that love between two men is perfectly natural. Being gay isn’t all about clothes and body and whatever distorted version of masculinity you relate to. I just want to be a random weirdo who doesn’t give a fuck what anybody thinks. Carlos and I get to do that together. I love it.
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Ridiculous Living

James Whiteside, Dancer
It was seven years ago — I was 23 when we met, and Dan was still in college. He was 20, and that age difference seemed like a lot at the time. It was strange, dating someone who couldn’t drink legally. I was dancing for Boston Ballet, and I was performing as JbDubs, and my friends and I used to go out every once in a while in very rudimentary drag. He thought it was so weird at the time. After a while, we persuaded him to come out with us for an annual drag party, a twisted spin on the Nutcrackercharacters. He came out as the Spanish woman and looked horrible — like Fräulein Maria meets Frida Kahlo meets Patrick Swayze. But it was fun and he got obsessed.

I still help him when I can. He’ll say, “Hey, buy me these brown panty hose at CVS.” I think the biggest issue living together is he has so much drag. In Boston we had a bigger place. Now we have this two-bedroom in New York, and we have an entire bedroom filled with drag. I’m like, “Put your fucking wigs away!” Our bedroom is very simple, though — very serene and dumbed down because New York is so crazy. It was his idea: Let’s put nothing in here and paint the walls stark white. When I was away one weekend doing a show, I came home and it was pristine.

I really enjoy love and relationships and sex, but I’m not really that romantic. I guess I’m very pragmatic. I think sometimes it’s not in a man’s nature to be romantic. And that’s just how it is. I feel like I’m one of those men. The two of us have these sort of ridiculous lives. We’re very busy and working all the time, so the time when we can sit around is precious and rare. It’s good to create some special moments. We just have to figure out how to feed the cat.

Dan Donigan, Drag Performer

After we met for coffee, we started texting back and forth, and I’d meet up with him in the middle of the day, and we’d do silly, stupid things, like buy a vacuum. It wasn’t formal at all, and that was amazing for me. I was young at the time. If I was going on a date and going to fancy restaurants, I would be like, I’m 20, I need these informalities.

We are far from simple people, but we have simple pleasures. Whether it’s watching anime and silly sitcoms, or sitting on the couch with our Ben and Jerry’s. We each have our own pint. We don’t share. Mine is Chubby Hubby. He’s more Phish Food. It’s good because if we ended up getting the same, I’d finish my pint and then he’d just skim his, and the next day I’d eat the rest of his. Maybe that’s our biggest issue — when I eat his ice cream!

I didn’t really know how to be in a relationship at first because I hadn’t had one before. I thought you had to give up everything to be with one person. I lost a lot of friends because I made my whole life about James for a while. Then eventually James said, “Dan, you have no life. I’m happy to be a big part of your life, but you need more.” That was two years into the relationship. I didn’t know what to do. He said, “You need to have some passion, be inspired, do something.” I got a job with Marc Jacobs and things started developing. I had a lot more fun with fashion, merchandising, and visuals. From there, drag came into my life — because of James. I almost think he’s why I got onRuPaul’s Drag Race. He helped me with both of my audition videos. All that took me in another direction. He’s always been successful, but our relationship is also about being supportive. It’s about making each other more popular.

But I’ve also become more independent. That’s when a relationship really works — at least that’s what works for us. You can get so stifled by too much attention.

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